BARE Coping instead of barely coping.

When you are experiencing life as normal (whatever that is!), you can work the BARE program in a way that can feel light and fun, giving yourself time to really dig into the principles and take days to soak up pleasure or make leisurely lists of new things to try. But what I want to show you is how incorporating the BARE program into an extremely stressful time can be just as life-giving. Sometimes, it can be a lifeline. 

At least, that is how it’s been for me these past few months. 

My parents are sick. Both of them. And when I say sick, I mean VERY, VERY SICK.


Looking Back Before Jumping Forward

There are a few days left of 2018! It’s the perfect time to pause and celebrate what you’ve accomplished this year. I’m providing a few reflection questions to use as you review your year. Let your answers guide you to create the life you want to life, and then jump into 2019 with revitalized energy and a new purpose! 



First Cousins

I had a very close extended family growing up, and this past weekend some of us saw each other for the first time in 30 years. I’m not sure how that much time passed by, but what brought us together was a collective need to experience joy in the midst of tragedy.



How was your summer?

Our seasons are full of experiences, usually both wonderful ones and hard ones. This week, I’m sharing the highlights and lowlights of my summer, and working to stay present to the full kaleidoscope of human emotions. So before we dive into fall, join me in taking a look back at the warmer months.



I am not enough

When I first realized how smart my husband was, my first thought was:

Am I enough?

Wouldn’t my husband need to be with someone of equal intelligence?



Are you in your way?

What does your heart yearn for?

Do you know what you want but your thoughts are constantly telling you that you are not smart enough or talented enough.

I want to help you get out of your own way, so you can get to the life that you crave.


What’s in your way?

What do you really want to do with your life? 

Maybe you have a list of all the things your heart really longs for.

But now you are not sure how to incorporate the life you crave into your already busy life.

So let’s look at how you can overcome some of the possible obstacles to create the life you really want.


Dig Deeper. Listen Harder.

What does your heart yearn for?

What do you crave?

Are you doing what you really want to do with your life?

If not, why? Is it because you don’t really know what you want?

Let’s figure out what it is!



“Success” is personal

What does the word “Success” mean to you?

Notice I said to YOU.
Not to your parents. Not to your friends. Not to your spouse. Not to society.

You are the only one who can define success for your life.



Stop being so selfish!

I have a client named Cassie who works full time and takes care of her three children. Cassie is exhausted. She says she has no time to do anything beyond getting her work done and taking care of her family, and even if she did have the time, she feels she should be devoting every second to her family. They need her. It would be selfish for her to take time for herself.

Many people think like Cassie. They will not make the time to take care of themselves because they think it is “selfish.”



Just Say Yes!


People Pleasers love to use this simple three letter word.
Yes, I can...
Yes, of course I will…
Yes, I would be happy to...

People Pleasers habitually use the Y word to everyone.
Everyone except themselves.


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Oops. I did it again!

Do you find yourself getting triggered by other people’s opinions of you?

It’s totally normal to have the urge to seek the approval of others. So what do we do when we find ourselves feeling hurt, angry or defensive by being judged by others?

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Ambiguous Grief

How do you feel about the term ‘Empty Nester?’

Even though the term describes my life stage, it is not big enough to encompass all the growing and building I have done in the five years since my last child left home.

However, even with a full life, there is a nagging, vague sort of sadness that comes with releasing our children into the world. It’s a special kind of grief.  

Join me on the blog today where I’m talking about that grief and offering up my tried-and-true tools for working through all kinds of grief.

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Who Is Your Boss

Who dictates what you do with your life?
Is it your work boss? Your spouse? Your children? Your friends? Society? Your Inner Critic that tells your what you “should” or “should not” be doing?
If you are letting someone else call the shots, you are giving away your personal power.
It’s time to take it back. Now!

Letting Go

I was cleaning out my files today and I ran across this beautiful piece about how to Let Go. I don’t know who the author is, but I wanted to share it with you.

Perhaps you need to let go of a burden or sorrow, losing a loved one, or learning how to live with a heartache.  

If you are having difficulty figuring out what Letting Go really means, I hope this reading will help.

Crushing the Fear Peanut

How did Jess go from running a disappointing race to running a great race?
Simple, she just crushed the Fear Peanut.
Want to know what the Fear Peanut is?
Keep reading to find out…

Are you a People Pleaser?

You just want everyone to like you. So you are willing to do whatever it takes to get them to like you. No matter what they ask. NO matter what the cost is to you.