I have a client named Cassie who works full time and takes care of her three children. Cassie is exhausted. She says she has no time to do anything beyond getting her work done and taking care of her family, and even if she did have the time, she feels she should be devoting every second to her family. They need her. It would be selfish for her to take time for herself.
Many people think like Cassie. They will not make the time to take care of themselves because they think it is “selfish.”
Listen to me carefully.
IT IS NOT SELFISH TO TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF.
In fact ...
IT’S SELFISH NOT TO TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF.
If you are totally stressed-out, emotionally overburdened, physically exhausted or spiritually depleted, how can you possibly take care of anyone else?
If you are not good to yourself, then you are absolutely no good to anyone else.
If you do take care of yourself, you will be stronger, more patient, less irritable, more open, and more available to love those most important to you. In other words, taking some of your precious time to nourish yourself actually increases your ability to nourish others.
What can you do to take better care of yourself? There are so many choices!
- Breathe fresh air for 5 minutes in the morning to start your day.
- Walk outside
- Soak in a hot bath
- Call your best friend
- Do a crossword puzzle
- Listen to music
- Do nothing
- Pick some flowers
- Clean out your closet
- Make your favorite meal
- Drink a glass of wine
- Buy an outfit that you love
- Write out your thoughts
- Go to the movies
- Read a great book
- Go to the theatre
- Spend time in nature.
Choose one of these every day, or make your own list of what feels nurturing to you.
Stop being selfish by not taking care of yourself. Take care of yourself because you do care about other people.
Everyone benefits when you are able to give your loved ones the best version of yourself.