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During my first year of marriage, I was taking a course on IQ testing.
My husband Chuck graciously agreed to sit through hours and hours of testing so I could practice my administration skills.
After calculating his score, I was stunned to discover that my new husband had an almost genius level IQ.
Of course I knew he was super smart, I just didn’t know exactly how smart he actually was.
When I saw his score, a million thoughts swirled through my mind:

Had it been a mistake to marry someone with such a superior intellect?
Wouldn’t he need to be with someone of equal intelligence?
Would I be enough for him?

I felt completely intimidated.

And then I thought, “Hey! Maybe I scored the test wrong! Yes! That must be it. I’ll give him a different IQ test.”

Luckily for me, he agreed to sit through hours and hours of yet another IQ test. (Remember, we were newlyweds at the time.)

I meticulously scored the second test.
And guess what?
Yup, he got the exact same score.
The indisputable fact was that I married a man whose IQ was far superior than mine.
And sure enough, the universal worry of “Am I enough?” hit me hard.

And so I started researching. I learned that there were all kinds of Intelligences:
Emotional and Social Intelligence.
Artistic Intelligence
Athletic Intelligence

One study said there were 7 kinds of Intelligences:

  • Musical (sound smart)

  • Logical-mathematical (number/reasoning smart)

  • Existential (life smart)

  • Interpersonal (people smart)

  • Bodily-kinesthetic (body smart)

  • Linguistic (word smart)

  • Naturalist (nature smart)

I found out that academic Intelligence doesn’t necessarily have anything to do with finding happiness and success in life.

And then I started noticing that many of the highly intellectual people that I met had absolutely no emotional or social intelligence whatsoever.

And it hit me that we need all kinds of intelligences to make life interesting.  

As I’ve come to appreciate my own flavor of Intelligence, I rarely feel intimidated by my husband’s IQ anymore. I am okay with the fact that I will never beat him in a round of Jeopardy.  I am at peace knowing that I complement our relationship tremendously by bringing emotional and social balance into our lives.

Turns out, I am enough!

So are you.

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